Matrimony And A Good Marriage

Matrimony describes the relationship between husband and wife and matrimonial consent describes the free willingness of a man and a woman to enter into marriage.

The Right Person

Who we enter into matrimony with, is one of the most important decisions we make in our lives. It is not only marrying the right person but also being the right partner. Marriage is about becoming a team and spending the rest of your lives together.

The Art of Matrimony

A good marriage is not something that you find, it is something that has to be created. It requires time and effort. You have to work at it and you have to cultivate it. Marriage does not guarantee that you will be together forever, it is only paper. It takes love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship and faith in your relationship to make it last.

Beautiful Box

Some people enter into matrimony believing that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they longed for, companionship, romance, love, friendship. At the start, the box is empty. You have to put something in it before you can take anything out. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, praising, serving, of keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.

Commitment

Commitment to each other is an important factor in building a strong marriage which means putting your partner's needs above your own. Each partner's actions need to communicate that he or she matters. A great marriage does not happen by luck or by accident. It is the result of a consistent investment of time, thoughtfulness, forgiveness, affection, mutual respect and a rock-solid commitment between husband and wife.

Trust & Truth

Trust and truth are two pillars of a strong matrimonial relationship. If you do not trust your partner, you will not speak the truth and if you do not speak the truth your partner will not trust you. Each partner's actions must be trustworthy. You simply cannot have a healthy matrimonial relationship without trust. There has to be an open and honest communication between both partners. "Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on the foundation of honesty and trust" (Dave Willis) "Ultimately the bond of all companionship whether in marriage or friendship is conversation" (Oscar Wilde).

Forgiveness

The Keys to forgiveness are a heartfelt apology, a willingness to make amends, a desire to rebuild trust and patience. Forgiveness in matrimony is ultimately a choice only you can make.

Respect

Matrimony at its core is all about respect for the other person and respect goes both ways. In marriage, disagreements are inevitable but disrespect is optional.

Matrimony & Struggles

When you face a struggle in matrimony, the struggle will become a story one day. It will either be a story about why you divorced or a story about how you worked together to build a stronger marriage. You get to decide which story becomes true. The couples that are meant to be are the ones who go through everything that is designed to tear them apart and come out even stronger. "Your marriage will not be defined by the size of your struggles but by the size of your commitment to overcome the struggles together" (Dave Willis).