How to Identify the Right Sikh Person for Matrimony

Perfect Person

No one is perfect and so you are never going to find the perfect Sikh partner for marriage. However, you can find a good Sikh matrimonial partner but first you need to do your homework.

You need to make a list and prioritise what you would like to see in your future spouse such as level of education, profession, values, virtues and religious beliefs. For example, if you are an Amritdhari Sikh and you have a strong connection to the Sikh faith, what level of connection do you expect your future matrimonial partner to have with the Sikh faith. Use these criteria for your initial search.

Found Someone

You have found a Sikh person who fits your criteria, you enjoy each other's company, you like the same things and the chemistry feels right but there are other important factors to consider.

Marriages succeed in the long run, not because of the chemistry of the people or the personalities, but because of shared values, shared vision and a sense of unity. In most cases, the chemistry will happen naturally if there is a genuine respect, affection and regard for each other.

Similar Core Values

You need to ensure that you and your Sikh matrimonial partner are going in the same direction in terms of your life goals and your core values. You are a team and need to be on the same page. This means aligning on the things which are important to you and your potential partner such as views on children, where you wish to live or lifestyle habits.

Compromise

The key to any successful relationship is compromise. There will always be disagreements as you cannot expect to agree on everything and be perfectly aligned. The way you are able to compromise and negotiate with a potential partner should be a key indicator of how well you are suited to each other.

Every discussion does not have to be an argument. With the right Sikh matrimonial partner, you should be able to express opposing views without causing a breakdown in the relationship. This is good practice for being able to discuss the challenges and situations that will arise in married life.

Undivided Attention

The ability to hear you even if the content of the conversation is of no interest to your potential partner shows that you are worthy of his or her time and attention.

There is nothing worse than being in the middle of speaking to someone and noticing that he or she is scrolling on the mobile. The right Sikh matrimonial partner will not do this. He or she will be completely present in your company which is an important part of human connection and demonstrates your value to that person. Attention plays a big part in forming meaningful connections.

When you are with the right Sikh person, you should feel free to be yourself and show all sides of your personality. If something is on your mind, and you prefer to speak about it rather than bottling it up, the right Sikh person will listen and help you with any problem you may have.

The Feel Good Factor

The right Sikh person for matrimony will empower you to be your most confident self. He or she will reassure you and pay compliments which will make you feel good about yourself. A matrimonial partner who is constantly questioning your thoughts and appearance is a clear red flag that something is not right.

Intuition

Finally, listen to your heart's message to you and you will know whether or not the Sikh person you have found is right for matrimony. When you feel good, then you are on the right path. On the other hand, your intuition may send out warning signs. For example, if your partner wants to change you in any way and does not accept you for who you are, this is a clear sign of a controlling person who may not treat you with the respect, affection and regard that you deserve.