Getting to Know your Potential Sikh Matrimonial Partner

Once you have identified a suitable match, you need to make contact with that person.

Internal Messaging System

Most online Matrimonial websites have an internal messaging system which will enable you to send a message informing your potential Sikh Matrimonial Partner that you are interested in getting to know them better.

Communication by Email

This is a good way to find out if the person is worth your time and attention. Take your time and do not rush. Ask the questions that you feel are important and the answers you receive will assist you in assessing the suitability of this individual. Be honest and polite. Do not feel under any obligation to reveal anything which you are not comfortable in revealing. At any point, if you feel that this is not the right Sikh Matrimonial Partner for you, tell them politely and respectfully.

Communication by Telephone

Following communication by email, if you feel that there is a possibility that this person could be a suitable Sikh Matrimonial Partner, then communication by telephone would be the next step. This enables you to build a more personal connection to get to know that person. Talk about your likes and dislikes, your interests, your work pattern and day to day routine etc. This will help to build your trust in that person.

Meeting your potential Sikh Bride or Sikh Groom

Following communication by telephone, if you feel that you are now comfortable and would like to meet and get to know the person even better, then do take this step. However, make your intentions clear in that the objective of the meeting is to get to know each other for the purposes of deciding whether or not you are suitable for Matrimony. It is advisable to take a trusted friend or a family member to the meeting who can help in the assessment of suitability and for safety.

Time Frame

A time frame should be agreed within which a decision should be taken by both the Sikh Bride and Sikh Groom. For example six months or a year after which the answer should be either yes or no. It should not be open-ended.

Day to Day Behaviour

Making a good impression is easy over the telephone, via email or a meeting for lunch or dinner. In order to get a much better idea of the person's behaviour and how he or she acts in day to day life and with other people, it is a good idea to do some volunteer work together or meet each other's family and watch his or her behaviour with the family members.

Final Decision

This is the time to be very open and honest with each other. Your Sikh Bride or Sikh Groom is someone with whom you will build a home, a future and possibly raise children. You need to be thorough in examining and understanding each other's attitudes and behaviours on all aspects of married life together. It is not important that you should both agree on everything but rather that you have the ability to communicate and work out any differences. If the communication is strong and the willingness to compromise with each other is present, then you have the basis for a strong marriage.

If your potential Sikh Matrimonial Partner is unclear or does not want to discuss the aspects of married life together, you need to take this seriously. Marriage is like a business. Each partner has something they are going to invest. Each partner expects a return. Both partners have to roll up their sleeves to do the work. You need to understand, in advance, the investments, the expected return and how much each partner is willing to work and what the risks are. If your potential Sikh Bride or Sikh Groom does not want to invest much, expects an unrealistic return or is not willing to work, communicate or compromise, you may need to consider walking away.